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[quote=Anonymous]I would make sure that other people know what you're dealing with at home, both with your children and your spouse. Everyone needs to cut you some slack, but they can't and won't do that if you won't say anything and thereby grant them the space to extend that grace to you. By pretending that everything is NT in your family, you're forcing people to behave as though that's the case. And in a NT family, the general view is that kids misbehave because of poor parenting. You become the reason that "we can't have nice things" instead of the real reason, which is that you've got a family that has to grapple with all the challenges of having ND kids. Families with ND kids don't behave like the ones that don't and they shouldn't be expected to. By lying to everyone you're putting yourself in an impossible position where you'll be judged and looked down upon as a bad or ineffective parent. And I get it that your husband doesn't want you to tell anybody. But ultimately, you're your own person and he doesn't get to silence you unless you choose to let him. With your closest friends, I'd also confide in the difficulty being caused by your husband because you need shoulder to rest your head upon if you're going to make it through all of this. Let your friends be your friends. [/quote]

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