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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you deal with this? I would be the sole breadwinner too. She makes 1/10th my income and will probably become a SAHM. If we divorce I will be ruined financially.

We have zero issues in our relationship, I just tend to think of worst case scenarios.[/quote]

TBH, I think you are her divorce horror story - not vice versa.  You seem perfectly happy to marry someone who makes very little money compared to you and to benefit from her free labor as a SAHM, but if she exercises her autonomy to divorce you, you are concerned that YOU will be ruined financially.  This distorts what is typically the objective experience of SAHMs - that they are vulnerable to being divorced at any time and will not have money to hire a lawyer and enforce their rights, that their husband will view marital equity forever as "his money", that even if divorced it is highly likely that she will not get enough in a settlement to live at anything close to the former level, that she will have to work but will have difficulty finding a well paying job, that in a divorce she will likely still de facto have primary responsibility for the kids which will continue to negatively impact her earning power.

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Add in a prenup and she is destitute. [/quote]

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