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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK but why the heck did you buy the kebabs when he told you not to?[/quote]

If she works, she shouldn't have to ask his permission what she wants for dinner. I can't imagine living in a world where I can't just be at the store and see something yummy and decide to buy it for dinner.[/quote]

Right, but I wouldn't call my husband and ask (for permission?) from the store to begin with. I'd just buy it.

[b]It's weird to make the call and ask, then get clear specific direction, and ultimately do the opposite[/b].

Not saying it excuses DH behavior. But it's a bad pattern.[/quote]

The bold is the behavior of someone who is fearful and cowed, so asks for direction about something extremely trivial.

Then that person does the opposite as a tiny act of defiance and independence, while also trying to placate the other person of whom she's fearful (she bought him the thighs he demanded, just added the kebabs she wanted).

Add it all up and it's a sad case of her fearing setting him off but also her wanting to assert a tiny bit of her own choice in the most mundane way. She needs to live a life where she doesn't think it's normal to call her husband and run every minuscule thing past him, and where real independence doesn't hinge on getting one dinner she prefers. No one should have to jump through hoops just to buy a treat one damn time and eat it without a blow-up at home. She's already said he's like this about other things. I'd thank God I didnt have kids and I'd get out.[/quote]

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