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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs drink every day, usually a beer or two with lunch, at least one gin- or whiskey-based cocktail at 5, and usually also wine with dinner.

DH and I sometimes have either a cocktail or a glass of wine, but usually not. We just don’t happen to drink much.

They comment. Peer-pressure-y questions about why not, and dumb remarks like “We didn’t raise you right” or “You’re missing out.” We just brush it off, but now that my kids are older, I don’t like this dynamic. Suggestions on how to shut it down once and for all?[/quote]

Wow!  I come from a family with enough alcoholics to sink a ship, but there was never this sort of high-pressure conversation (beyond "are you sure you don't want a drink?).  
 
Many parents with boundary issues give this sort of pressure for all kinds of different things, I guess for your parents it is alcohol. (and all that drinking is probably not helping them rein in this behavior)
Maintaining your boundary (finding a stock answer to give them every time) is the only way to deal with it, just like others dealing with parental pressure on other topics.    Sorry they are acting like high schoolers trying to be the cool kids.
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