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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP can’t get separate lodgings without causing rift with the in-laws.

PP that said I have the same problem. The last time the person was going to stay with us, I requested he stay elsewhere because it wasn’t a good time. He said ok and showed up at my house early every morning to “spend time with us.” He might as well have just stayed at our house. OP’s in-laws would probably do something similar.[/quote]

Then you cause a rift with the in-laws.

I absolutely make my own travel and lodging arrangements for our family.  I am not going to subject my family to alternate schedules and people who cannot respect boundaries.  I'd rather not go than share lodgings under those conditions.  When we've done that in the past, we've ended up with problems with crankiness and problems when we come home and need a lot of time to readjust.  When we go and stay alone, we can keep our schedules and we don't end up with those problems.  So, either we go on our terms, or we don't go.

At our family reunion in June, we had our own accommodations and our kids slept over with their cousin two of the four nights we were there.  That worked because it was four nights in the middle of a 2 week vacation (we planned a vacation around the reunion).  That worked fine having the sleepover in the middle.  But we (my spouse and I) had our own schedule and we had time after the two nights to get the kids back on a more regular schedule.[/quote]

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