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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is such a non-issue but if he thinks it to be then really counseling is needed as sounds like social anxiety.

Former college advisor.[/quote]

If you were really a college advisor, then you would know it is pretty uncommon at many small LACs to not graduate in 4 years. (Now that I am a parent, I know that part of the reason is that it is too expensive to add extra semesters!). LACs are small close knit communities and people off the norm stick out in a way. I still remember the one guy like this when I was an undergrad at a LAC - I didn’t care about him one way or another, but I remember people did speak disparagingly about him.

OP, I am just saying this because I sympathize with your son’s feelings! They are valid and aren’t a sign he needs anxiety therapy (he may or may not, but feeling this way isn’t dispositive in my non-medical experience).

However, I would strongly encourage him to go. He may be fine when he gets there! I would also investigate is there a date by which he can withdraw if he is miserable. I’d also suggest he get a job this year because if he keeps himself busy with classes and work, he won’t be in as many situations where he feels he is even being noticed. Can he live off campus? Have a car while there to visit friends on weekends? These are just ideas that might make him feel better about returning.

Good luck - I am a believer that these experiences make one stronger and more resilient in the long run and hope this becomes true for your son. [/quote]

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