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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your parent resides in one of the states that have filial laws in place, the state can come after the elder’s kids:

https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/filial-responsibility-laws-by-state

It’s clear that so many people here stating “walk away”, etc. don’t get it[/quote]

First, these laws apply to financial contributions.  There's no law that requires any adult to take an active hand in a parent's care.  OP's mother is in a facility that provides her care.  There's no indication that she is on her way to being destitute.  And if you think these laws are designed so that a child can be required to pay for upgraded care, or non-essential care, it's you who don't know what you are talking about,.  [/quote]

OP stated she had little money. The laws are designed for the states to get money from the kids of the elders. You are correct in that regard and that’s why the siblings can be gone after. Walking away is a good reason for them to come after OP as well. She can’t be forced, but saying to the nursing staff flat out what’s going on? They usually get it. But the social workers? I came out to another state to take care of my dying single aunt. Once she was in full-time hospice,  I came back home to my own family - all told about two months. She had others visiting her, etc. Didn’t stop the social worker from calling me regularly, harassing me to come back because they were no longer being paid by Medicare as she lasted more than the five days they expected her to. If I had been her daughter, she surely would have filed.[/quote]

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