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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You likely over-mothered him in his youth (you’re doing it right now) which led him to his present immaturity, and now it’s too late and life’s school of hard knocks will do the teaching here. Men have to lose a good woman in order to learn. Let him regret it![/quote]

What does learn from it mean in this context? Adults do not do better all the time and regret it for life. It is mathematically impossible for everyone to find a better mate after every breakup. “The one that got away…” is a real thing. I have friends and family in their 40s and 50s still thinking about an ex from decades ago.[/quote]

This is only true if you have a false notion that there is a single linear ordering of quality of a person. Different people have different needs and interests.

The seaweed is always greener in somebody else's lake. [/quote]

Exactly.  The "one that got away" trope refers to using 20/20 hindsight to punish onesself with unnecessary regret, rather than face the reality of life in the present and making the best of it, realizing that there were probably reasons that the past opportunities didn't work out.[/quote]

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