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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Another issue that I have is that him valuing only monetary contribution to a marriage instills the wrong values in our daughter. He completely ignores the fact that I take care of absolutely everything concerning childcare, household, finances, etc. For example I pick up our daughter at 3 pm every day.

I really don't think that I should stay at the office until 7 pm to the detriment of our child, if we don't need it financially, just to prove a point. He is very mad about this attitude and ignores my work as a mother. Of course, he is not even present during the week.

My daughter is too young, but at some point I will explain to her that there is a lot of value in all the other work that a parent does.

The irony is that  H had a stay-at-home mom and a live-in grandma. I, on the other hand, do everything that his mom and grandma did, on top of that what his father would do around the house and with the finances/paperwork, plus I work as a lawyer in my own firm (I have three employees).

We are surrounded by families with stay-at-home moms who are treated with respect and love by their husbands.

I personally do not know any other woman who earns $200k, except for big law partners. And it is still not enough. Sometimes I don't even know what to tell him, I just feel like crying. [/quote]

Nothing to offer in terms of advice except empathy. I so, so feel for you. I am experiencing much of the same. 
I think your daughter will understand with time the value you bring though.  [/quote]

OP here. Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry that you are going through the same issues.

My daughter already seems to understand the value of prioritizing her over earning more money. She often tells me that she appreciates me spending time with her.

Wishing you the best![/quote]

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