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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IDK, but sounds like you have a terrible relationship with your family. If my parents ever had a need, I would 100% take them into my home and take care of them. Right now they live with my brother. In our culture we take care of our elders. I have also told my kids they can always come back to me for help. It might be that they need an extra push to be more productive and get off video games and get a real job, but I'm not there yet with my kids. I will always have a room for them at my house when they are in need. However, if you're at the point when you feel that "I didn't ask to be born" that doesn't seem like a good place to support their parents. Seems like deeper issues. [/quote]

Like I said before, I understand both arguments on their own. What I don't understand is the double-standard; why the "You have a moral obligation to help a family member in need even if you have no legal obligations towards them." argument is valid when an adult child has a parent in need, but not when a parent has an adult child in need.[/quote]

Idk about others but my parents would've done everything if I needed help and I do everything I can for my children. Its not an obligation, real term is unconditional love.[/quote]

Parents may choose not to continue to help an adult child to help said adult child “grow up” and be less dependent on them.  Withholding non-life saving help can be seen as good parenting necessary to help their adult children “launch”.

On the other hand, parents give children life and most adults like being alive. In fact, most consider life the most precious gift they have.  That in itself is enough to be grateful and feel some obligation.

But what if you had good parents?  Good parents shouldn’t be taken for granted.  There is no guarantee that a child will end up with parents who will provide for them and love them to the best of their abilities.  So if you are privileged enough to end up with some good parents through no merit of your own, you ought to feel extra grateful and willing to give back to those who raised you.

[b]If nothing else, consider it a delayed tip for good parental service[/b] :)[/quote]

:roll:  :roll:  :roll: [/quote]

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