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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I were 70 and in good health and my kids were already pressing me about nursing homes I’d be pissed too.

Jesus Christ, OP give it a rest.  Circle back to her in a few years.   [/quote]

+1 my mom is 76 and doing well. My MIL is 86 and doing well too. We haven’t yet had convos with either.

Expecting decline isn’t helpful because you don’t know how it will play out. Wait for a diagnosis or change in circumstance. But, still you can’t ever make a perfect plan. [/quote]

I guess that’s the difference between your approach and the rest of us. There will be a decline. It’s inevitably. We’d all like to avoid a catastrophic fall being the reason for the change in housing.[/quote]

Why?

I would rather live at home with my garden and neighbors for x years, have a catastrophic fall and then go into AL then preemptively do it and languish for years and years.[/quote]

With all due respect, this is another way of saying "I don't want to have to think about it in advance at all, so I'll let my children (or nieces and nephews, or whomever, unless you have absolutely no family at all or are completely estranged) be forced to drop their own commitments and deal with it for me in a crisis."

Is that your prerogative? Absolutely. It is certainly one way people play out the last few chapters of their lives. I had parents who loved me so much that they would do anything to spare me any great pain and heartache, and they did the hard work of making what plans they could in advance. I knew this was a gift to me, a beloved child. Not everyone gets to experience that.[/quote]

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