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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree about the 1/3 of a house.  [b]We have this exact situation in our future and I dread it.[/b]   DH has 2 brothers, 1 never married and the other is barely scraping by with a few kids.  I have no idea how they are going to chip in to help maintain or contribute to upkeep.  Would rather get our own place.[/quote]

You don't have to dread it. If your DH dreads it too, then the two of you do the mature thing you must do, and DH tells his parents that he and you agree you don't want any share in the house at all. Let them leave it 50-50 to the two brothers or sell it while the in-laws are still alive to sell it, or whatever. Seriously. Remove yourselves from the equation. But you must do it now, while DH's parents are still alive. If your DH is worried that this news will upset his parents, there is a larger problem with his family being overly emotional about a house.

If the in-laws still leave it to all three sons in their will-- that's their prerogative if they choose not to listen to your DH -- DH has to be tough enough to say that he is ceding his third and the other two brothers get the house. There are legal ways to do this, PP. I would not expect the other two to buy you out; sounds like they don't have the funds.

I would never co-own property with anyone other than my spouse. It's asking for trouble, rifts, anger, resentments over years, especially if you already can see that you and DH will end up doing upkeep on a place the other brothers will expect to use fully. Just nip it NOW. All the emotion around vacation houses is just horrible and people need to tell that older generation, "I've enjoyed this place but don't want to be left it, or any portion of it."  [/quote]

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