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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not for me. I’m great on weeknights but shit on weekends. I am definitely not cut out for full time parenting. [/quote]

So you are saying you aren’t really qualified to raise your own children properly. [/quote]

Nobody would call CPS on me. But I'm not good at mothering. [/quote]

I really don't get this. I understand when people
have to work to keep food on the table, or it provides their kids a better quality of life, but I legitimately do. It understand why people have kids (especially multiple kids) who are self described bad at being a parent. I pray your partner doesn't say the same. Or that your nanny never quits on you. Your poor kid. [/quote]

Don't you worry about my kids - they're just fine. Their dad is the main parent and we pay the nanny very well. [b]I'm just not one of those people with a maternal streak who loves babies or always wanted to be a mother. I'd have been happy never having kids, but my husband really wanted them. [/quote][/b]

NP. Instead of having kids, you should have kept your legs closed and divorced your husband so that he could marry someone who truly wanted children. Why be a mother if you are not really interested in being a parent? So selfish of you to do this to your kid, just so you could keep your husband happy.[/quote]

Do you say this to men who let their wives do the bulk of the parenting? No? Then get your judgmental misogyny back to Reddit. [/quote]

You completely missed my point. It’s not an issue that her husband does the bulk of the parenting, it’s her attitude towards her kid that’s the issue.

If she knew that didn’t really want kids, she shouldn’t have had them….even if her husband wanted to. Kids deserve to have parents who truly want them. [/quote]

Her kids are well cared for by parents with the emotional intelligence to know their real desires.

There are millions of children in the United States being raised by a single parent because the other parent “doesn’t truly want them” but in the bulk of those cases the missing parent is a man. Do you go around calling absentee fathers “monsters” and telling them they should have abstained from sex so their partner could have instead slept with someone who truly wanted to be a father? Or do you put that on the woman too?[/quote]

Well, I wasn’t the person who called her a ‘monster.’ I just said she shouldn’t have had kids if she really didn’t want to be a parent. And yes, I feel the same way about fathers too.

In my line of work, I see so many children with parents who are not committed to raising them and it really has an impact on the kids on so many levels. The kids are not all ‘fine’ unfortunately.[/quote]

Did you say she shouldn’t have kids, or did you say she should have “kept her legs closed”? One is an inherently sexist comment and you can’t backpedal now.

If you’re “just” the poster who called her selfish and said she shouldn’t have had kids, what in earth value do you think your opinion has? Do you think she’s going to read that an invent a Time Machine? Is she going to read that and place her kids for adoption? Other than dumping on a mother for making a choice you don’t agree with, what even was the point?

God help us that you claim to work with kids— I assure you you’re more damaging than someone who had children because their spouse wanted them. [/quote]

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