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[quote=Anonymous]To the PP who thinks adoption is wrong, I am a 26  year old adoptee.  I was dangerously ill for the first year of my life and had to have constant care around the clock, be fed a tbs of food every 2 hours and had many, many, many doctors visits.  My BPs were still in college.  I thank God everyday that they had the heart to put me up for adoption and I was raised in the amazing home that I was.  I honestly do not know if I would have survived the first year in my life had I stayed with my birth parents.  NOW, to get this discussion back on track.

I was never very curious to meet or contact my birth parents, as I had and still have no ill feelings towards them.  As I posted above, I grew up with an amazing family and feel incredibly lucky.  That said, when I was 20, I began to experience some health issues and became curious to know what my birth family's medical history (other than diabetes on one side).  When I contact the adoption agency, I found out that my bf had passed away several years ago but had left me many letters, updated medical histories and information.  My bm, on the other hand, had a do not contact clause on her information and her information was still private (didn't know her name etc).  I'll be honest, it hurt and stung a bit, but my adoptive parents were incredibly supportive and helpful.   6 years later and on my way to getting married and having an awesome career, I sometimes think it is sad that my bm will never seen what a great person I have become.  However, if she tried to contact me now, I'm not sure I'd really be receptive.  I tried, found out she didn't want me to contact her, and have moved on.

OP, if you are really going to reach out to her, DON"T DO IT OVER FACEBOOK.  With the no contact clause and how you phrased the "not ready, have a good life right now" thing, I would imagine she might not be too receptive to a facebook message. If you know enough about her to be able to find her on facebook and be certain that it is her, please take the time to hand write a letter and mail it to her.  Please don't mention that she broke the no contact clause or anything like that.  If anything, I would apologize for not being ready to have contact when she wanted, but you are interested in getting to know her now.  I'd leave it short and sweet and then leave it up to her.  
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