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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would she not get a say in who comes over to her home and when?? If she moves in, it's her home too. Of course she deserves a heads up when she will have guests![/quote]

They’re not guests. They’re OP’s kids. OP is never going to treat them like guests. Maybe a rule could be set up about a heads up if they bring a friend over. But the kids are family and likely consider their dad’s house “home” the way many young adult children do when they are first launching.[/quote]

Yes and part of  helping kids launch is establishing reasonable boundaries.[/quote]

DP. OP said his kids are *still in college.*

When I was in college I still considered my parents’ house to be my home. There were rules over breaks about keeping the noise down past a certain hour but I 100% was using the pool and having friends over basically when I wanted. I ate what I wanted in the house. I came and went as I pleased although I’d give them a courtesy heads up about where I was headed and when I’d be home so they wouldn’t worry. But I definitely wasn’t acting like a house guest.

Of course my parents were still married and they love me and knew my friends and had a general interest in my life and having me around. OP’s GF doesn’t have that level of interest in their life so it feels like an imposition on her. [/quote]

Yes still in college is part of the launch period. 
It's great your parents didn't give a shit what you did or at least pretended not to.
The fact still remains it's not inappropriate to call and let someone know you are coming over or bringing friends home 
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So in between going off to college and coming home for Christmas break your kids had to start letting you know when they’d be home and have friends over? Suddenly they’re guests to you and your house is no longer home to them? I guess you just didn’t have that close of a relationship with your parents.[/quote]

Yes to the first part

No to the second. We see each other several times a week.

I don't know where your parents failed you that you'd hope someone had a terrible  relationship with their parents [/quote]

Where did you read the word hope?[/quote]

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