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[quote=Anonymous]I’ll preface this with the fact I grew up in Christian youth groups etc and had my mom refuse to divorce my dad even when he was living with another woman - he had to be the one to file because his AP wanted them to be married …and my dad went to church/son of a deacon etc.  So I’ve yet to reconcile hypocrisy and religion and turning a blind eye to misdeeds because someone claims to be religious and/or have moral authority.

So this is my opinion as someone not practicing but grew up in that world that you have to separate your relationship with Christ separate from what someone else who claims to follow is doing.  The Bible is literally full of stories of people that claimed to follow religion and their actions said otherwise.  Why do we forget that? The second is that while there are stories of miracles, that doesn’t negate in my mind going to a doctor for a physical ailment or a therapist to help with the mind/emotions.  There is a reason why your ex needed to feel like someone else’s savior rather than an equal in the marriage and could not communicate honestly if he was unhappy in the marriage or with religion prior to connecting with the OW.  Faith might be a catalyst to seek that help but I don’t think it automatically gives someone good communication skills, self-awareness, and replaces therapy.  I do agree that your DH is probably also trying to see himself as a good person even while they he did things that are counter to that but your road has to be one of focusing on your journey in religion and helping the kids have the tools that they need to have healthy relationships that co-exists with the religious foundation.[/quote]

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