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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really didn’t want kids.  My wife did.  We delayed for a long time and eventually it was time to either have kids or not.  I was secretly more against it than I let on.  When she got pregnant I hid how disappointed I was that our old (very fun, jet setting) life was over.

Fast forward a few years and I can’t imagine going back.  It was a rough transition and I do miss the ability to jump on a plane with a few days notice or just go out to dinner after work with my wife or others and not have anything to figure out.

I stepped up immediately out of a sense of duty and eventually because I really wanted to.

No one could tell ny original concerns because I am extremely good at masking my feelings and I know how to handle them.  But I felt devastated at the time and now it seems so silly.

I think a lot of people are like this but won’t admit it, even anonymously.[/quote]

I think you are somewhat exceptional. I wanted kids and love my kids more than anything and really enjoy my life with with them.  But it is crushing exhausting being a parent, and i realize so much of what I would like to do in career or life experience is limited by the cost and time commitment of our kids (we aren’t wealthy — I think if you lived a jet set life before you probably are much more wealthy which makes all things easier).  By the time they leave the house, I don’t expect to have much health or lifespan left, which I guess is why so many people try to live their dreams through their kids, as they know they have no change. [/quote]

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