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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband will probably be able to handle one kid, but not two. Two kids is a crazy ballgame of stress and misery and no time for yourself. It’s also harder to compromise as you get older and kids require you to pretty much compromise everything. He will be miserable.

Sad, but true. [/quote]

+1.  This is why I have an only child.  [/quote]

Me too. I probably could have handled the stress of two. Dh, not so much. I loved dh more than the idea of a theoretical kid, and I didn’t want to introduce something to our lives that made him miserable. So we stuck with one. Fwiw I have a general theory that my friends with two kids where are least one is a girl have happy or at least tolerable marriages (assuming they did before kids). My friends with two boys all have marriages in the crapper. So you take the risks when having two that things will be bad. All my friends with one kid have pretty reasonable lives, balanced marriages etc. I honestly don’t know why more ppl don’t have one kid. [/quote]

That's weird. From a sample size of two I can say that my best friend has two boys and a great marriage and another very close friend has a girl (older) and a boy and her marriage is a disaster and has been for a long time.

Also, we wanted one kid and ended up with surprise twins (no fertility treatments or IVF or anything like that, just spontaneous). Obviously that's not the norm, but just saying, there's a lot you probably don't know about people's lives, so it seems weird to generalize like you did. [/quote]

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