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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes.  I did.  So I broke it off (twice!).  It was painful but falling in love with him was not what I was looking for.[/quote]

How did he take it? Twice rejected. [/quote]

Sounds like typical dramatic affair partner BS between 2 histrionics that need drama. Since he’s a dude I’m sure he just got on an app and banged someone in “the breaks”.[/quote]

Probably?  I think he did like the drama I provided, he complained that everything about his marriage was sort of dead.  Whether that’s true or not, I don’t know.

I love him but I saw how much he loved his children and I love him enough that I knew that staying in his life would ultimately hurt them.  Whether he is off banging other women now, I don’t know, probably, but there was 0 chance that he would work things out with his wife and give his kids the dad they deserve as long as he and I were “friends,” with or without sex.

He kept coming back for more no matter what I said or did.  And I was growing more and more attached to him.  I knew this would end poorly for innocent people so I let him go and went to therapy.[/quote]

Why were you not looking to fall in love?  You don’t hear much about APs being sympathetic to a marriage or they wouldn’t be involved with the man in the first place. Unless maybe you are married yourself and had no plans to leave?  [/quote]

I’m married and he and I both made it very clear early on that we were not interested in disrupting each other’s lives in any way.  We both wanted sex/fun.  Then I caught feelings.  Affairs are immoral and stupid, that’s my lesson for 2023 kids.[/quote]

Affairs disrupt all lives by their very nature so I agree with your conclusion.  What’s different in your case is that it sounds like you broke it off for his situation instead of your own marriage and kids, assuming you have them. How has your own marriage and life been affected and has AP actually stayed away this time? He might have caught feelings too and could reappear. [/quote]

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