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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Betrayed spouses speak of limerence in an attempt to convince themselves that their spouse's relationship with the AP isn't serious. What they refuse to admit, though, is that nearly all romantic relationships start with a crush/limerence, including the one that they previously had with their spouse. Limerence will grow into lasting, meaningful love with time and attention.

That's the reason the wayward spouse has to go No Contact No Matter What with the AP if they are going to attempt reconciliation. [/quote]

This 10000%

The limerence excuse always bothered me for that reason.  Trouble is that it is hard to go no contact if you’re in limerence or love with someone already. [/quote]
Deep down, I think betrayed spouses know this. They also know that their wayward spouse is "grieving" the end of their relationship with AP. I couldn't stay with someone who was crying in the shower because they miss their AP so much, but that's me. There's also no guarantee that they will fall back in love with you, even after the thing with the AP fades (if it ever truly does). No, too many variables and unknowns. [/quote]

Haaaa. Men crying in the shower over the AP they threw under the bus. [/quote]

Sure, if the whole affair was just a way to get laid. Unfortunately, it’s easy for a man to catch feels, especially when AP is a beautiful young woman.  [/quote]

According to DCUM no AP is a beautiful young woman.[/quote]

Why would a beautiful young woman be an AP?  Unless the guy misrepresented that he's not in a relationship, or misrepresented that he's getting out of a relationship, or made promises he has no intention nor the means to keep.  You know - if the guy is a liar.  [/quote]

Even beautiful young women can have histories that make them vulnerable to predatory men.[/quote]

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