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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]-Your 11 year old needs to learn to advocate for herself
-You and your dh can step in if you see that the niece is driving her crazy
-You can talk to your SIL
-You can put a sleeping bag in your room for her

[b]I think avoiding awkward situations actually increases anxiety in the long run. Give her tools to deal with it and she will see that's it's not as bad as she pictured in her mind.[/b] [/quote]
This, exactly.  I don't think you're doing her any favors.  It sounds like it's "anxiety" when it's something she doesn't want to do.  Like she's got anxiety about sharing a room.  [/quote]

Yes. When you rearrange plans and make special trip accommodations you are signaling that she did in fact have something to be anxious about. It validates the anxiety. Yes you need to be sensitive but you can’t rearrange everything in a situation like this that is already safe and normal.[/quote]
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But there is something to be anxious about! The cousins don't get along. Why are we saying there's nothing to be anxious about?[/quote]
IKR? We accept a DIL being anxious to spend a week with a MIL, but discount kid’s anxiety. [/quote]

It was my post and I would also not think it is normal to be anxious and preoccupied to stay with your MIL.[/quote]

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