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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you should let her just bunk with you. Growing up, people always said things like this - you'll have to learn to deal with difficult people, etc. Now, in adulthood, I find that's simply not true. I never have to sleep in the same room as or spend any meaningful time with people who are mean/frustrating, etc. I can just avoid them, and have autonomy to do so. There's no need to make her uncomfortable on a vacation - its a vacation! [/quote]

very true - thanks. I do think the sleeping arrangement is what is bothering my daughter the most. She likes her sleep and finds the downtime incredibly necessary on a trip like this (there will be 16 people total). She'll be in our bedroom.

Yes, the BIL is also in the picture. But he's not the enabler. [/quote]

There's more than one enabler in this situation.[/quote]

(OP) Enabling may be the wrong word here. There is just an overall lack of discipline. [b]They have 3 kids which is more than they can handle.[/b] When their kids are occupied, they are happy...[/quote]

It could just as easily be that your family is used to a quieter, more introverted one-child household and not a more rambunctious, 3-kid one.  This is just as much about you as it is your in laws’ family.  We aren’t talking about a child bully or mean kid here, just one used to company who isn’t picking up one cues.  That’s not a discipline issue, it’s a redirect/coaching one.  You seem judgmental here.[/quote]
I agree.  It sounds like a normal 9 year old.  It seems like OP's family goes the other way and isn't very flexible.
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