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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I work in criminal justice. There are a ton of guys incarcerated for decades to life who have girlfriends/wives that love them to the moon. These men have absolutely zero prospects because they are rotting in prison, and yet, there is often a woman who calls, writes, puts money in their prison account on a regular basis.

I think this is strong proof that women can love men without a superficial financial motive[/quote]

Nope, what you have observed is called Hybristophillia which is the sexual attraction to criminals (most especially violent ones: murders, etc.). It occurs almost exclusively in women.

Some phycologists have theorized that this occurs in women due to either evolutionary reasons were a woman is attracted to very violent men due to similar reasons (yet more extreme) as "war brides" where women tend to chose during war that are the "winners" because by choosing the winners (i.e, stronger more violent men) the women will survive the war.

Other phycologists suggest its a combination of the above plus:

beauty and the beast mentality (i.e., I can change him when on one else could because I'm that special)
They want to share the spot light/ infamy (i.e., status seeking)
The "control" of having the "perfect" boyfriend because they know where he is at all times and he can't leave etc.

Bottom line, when you look at women attracted to convicts, it is NOT an altruistic love. It is often a very imperfect woman who is satisfying her own broken emotional needs. This is very self serving. This is essentially the counter argument to women loving men. They are using encarcerated men to satisfy their own fetish. [/quote]

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