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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If his hours are so tough, can he get a different job, maybe make $250, while you're making your $100, and you can live a simpler quieter life with "only" $350 combined? Would that be ok with you?

No one NEEDS a $650 HHI. But this is what you chased after together. If it no longer works, you need a change. [/quote]

The more succinct version of the responses upthread. You can outsource to make your current set up more feasible, but yeah, outsourcing takes energy and oversight too and you have to decide if you are willing to do that. No one can make this decision except OP and her DH, there is no advice to give here because everything is known and it's just about preferences in terms of priorities.

I wonder if the real issue is that OP and her DH are not on the same page in terms of priorities and it's leading to this feeling of being "trapped" when in reality they have more choices and options than like 99% of the world's population. Like maybe OP would really like to quite and SAHM, but it makes her DH uneasy to be the sole breadwinner and he's invented this excuse about health insurance to justify it. Or vice versa -- he doesn't' want  to outsource because he really thinks she should just quit and stay home so they don't have to deal with so many logistics.

If they are on the same page, it doesn't make sense that there is even any conflict here because the answer is obvious -- outsource more or quite and SAHM.[/quote]

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