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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister and also another close friend have kids with ASD who have outbursts like this. I also have another sister who refuses to discipline her child. It's so bad that I've stopped inviting the family with the undisciplined NT kid to join us for events at our home and out in public.

The problem here is that there are lots of parents who let their kids run wild and don't make the effort to teach them to deal with limits or things running out. Outsiders have no way to know whether your kid who is throwing a fit has a parent who refuses to do the work to teach them to behave in public vs. the kid has a medical condition.

"Just wanted to throw that out because there are differing views and plenty of people wouldn't have minded the cashier saying that to your child.
Are these parents of kids with autism?"

How do you expect people to know which one you are? 
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So i don't disagree with you in theory. i guess the issue is: Why should any stranger NEED to make a comment in either scenario?  "Best case" the kid is a NT brat who needs to be reined in by her mom. What's the purpose of the stranger saying something? Do you think it will help?   "Worst case" the kid is ASD. Saying anything won't make a difference.  And more importantly, shouldn't everyone in life just assume the best in others and assume this isn't a shitty mom but is a mom trying to handle her SN kid?  [/quote]

I had someone make a nasty comment to me.  My child walked ahead while we were waiting in line for a store to open.   Child didn't realize they got ahead of us.  Child had significant SN and didn't understand.  I had a woman chasing me around the store yelling at me to do something about my kid who was behaving and right with us.   It wasn't a big deal, I could see my child and grabbed her immediately as soon as I could.  I finally told her to stop following us, mind her own business and if she didn't stop I was getting store security.  My child wasn't melting down or doing anything wrong.[/quote]

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