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[quote=Anonymous]When I read your OP, I thought this neighbor of yours could be my daughter (the so-called rude girl). My daughter is actually very kind, friendly, and thoughtful and considerate of others. She is not rude. But she is incredibly shy. I have seen many, many times over the years where my daughter's classmates or teammates or other kids she knows say hi to her and she doesn't respond. I have talked to her about it many times. I've told her that while it would be best if she would say hi back, it's OK if she doesn't feel like saying anything but that she should at least acknowledge their greeting with a wave or at the very least a smile. If she doesn't say anything, I will speak on her behalf in a very friendly way to model to her how to respond. 
However, I don't know 100% for sure if she acknowledges/greets others when I'm not around to prompt or encourage her to do so or to model that to her. I can imagine that there are likely many times where someone talks to her--even a classmate she has known for years, since preschool, and likes just fine but never been close friends with--and she doesn't respond. I do want her to understand as she gets older that it is considered rude to ignore people like that but for young kids, I just don't think they really "get" that. I'm not saying an 8-9 year old can't be rude. But I don't necessarily think that it means that much (In this case, I don't think this necessarily means that this girl doesn't like your daughter) so I'd encourage your daughter to not let it bother her too much because it sounds like the other girl is just shy or doesn't want to talk; not to assume that means the other girl doesn't like her.[/quote]

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