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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's such a tendency/desire to respond to an OP's posts with criticism that all common sense goes out the window.

[b]If the other mother is big on everyone being kind and polite and inclusive, it is highly unlikely that her own DD has a neuro-atypical issue that prohibits decent behavior.[/b]

OP I always tell my kids that this is a learning moment. Bored, uninterested people are boring and uninteresting. This girl doesn't seem happy. That is sad. Let how you feel in this moment serve as a reminder to go out of your way to show kindness to others.

We're too willing to not judge and make excuses and say everyone is great. Some people have poor character. Some people are not good people. It's a good skill to be able to identify this. I am not talking about the girl because she is a young child. I am talking about her parents and they way she is being raised and what her parents puts up with. Her mom also sounds like a hypocrite.

This is why girls falter with friendships in MS/HS and relationships in college. Assuming the best from people who do not deserve it.[/quote]

I'm not one of the PPs who came on her and suggested this girl might have special needs.  I dislike that tendency.  But just want to say that I don't understand the bolded.  Wouldn't the mom of a child with SN be MORE inclined to be speaking up about the need for kindness and inclusivity?

It's also important to teach your kids to sometimes dig deeper and not get fooled by this surface stuff.  There is a mom and daughter at my DD's bus stop who are oh-so polite and outgoing every morning.  The girl is a mean girl at school, and the mom is the type who will turn around and talk about you behind your back.  There is a more reserved sort of stand-offish family, and both the mom and daughter in substance don't have a mean bone in their body.  [/quote]

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