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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you apply for an emergency Green Card and insurance,and bring your mom to the US? Why is she even in a foreign country? [/quote]

Bet he’d hire a caretaker for his mom in a flash. And at USA prices, $25-30 per hour. [/quote]

Actually, home aid care is covered by Medicaid if his mom has no other income in the US. It's his fault that 1) he left his mother abroad and sick 2) now they obviously need a live-in nanny since both are working - his wife appears cold but she's right by at large![/quote]

Exactly why the elderly parent pull-in waits by green card and new citizens are 20+ years long for many countries like India, Pakistan, Mexico, UK, all of Central America, etc. Foreigners are advised to put their parents on the USA immigration list the minute the adult children get their green cards or citizenship. or turn 18 yo if born here.

Very common immigration tactic.  But the wait is very long. Maybe the emergency angle would help but America and its health care system and hospitals cannot serve all current immigrants sickly and diseased parents to come here and get free treatment.  And it is free to them; they themselves paid in nothing to the system over the years. Not via income tax, property tax, sales tax, Medicaid, SS, etc. Net negative [/quote]
This is not correct.
Foreign parents of US citizens are considered immediate relatives and there is no waiting time for the green card. The 10-20 year wait lists are for the foreign siblings of US citizens.[/quote]

Exactly: my mom was temporary green card holder in 3 months from applying, and I moved her into my home right away as soon I got my US citizenship. Also not correct that these people didn't pay anything into US system. Their children do pay taxes. I paid so much taxes over the course of my work life in the US and won't be eligible for Medicaid as high earner. I don't think it's unethical for my mother to be eligible: I paid taxes sufficient to maintain several retirees already.[/quote]

It doesn’t work backwards like that. One generation, in this case an elderly immigrant of an immigrant, paid in nothing and gets everything. You’re describing a ponci scheme. Same reason social security will be depleted in 30 years and is essentially a tax to anyone under age 50. You can’t start a social network by giving away stuff to net takers. Even pretending there will be millions of future on-the books immigrants (no cash pay remittances/black market) and a 3 child fertility rates won’t fix that.[/quote]

No the law gives US green card holders close relatives of US citizens right to participate in the system. Thus it’s not a Ponzi scheme but totally legal spending of taxes I paid into it. I would rather see it spent on my mom than “nation building” activities all over the world [/quote]

The point remains you immigrating your elderly parents to America to use Medicaid and other forms welfare is a net negative.
You can’t pretend the 5,10, 15 or whatever years you hopefully paid your federal taxes and SS, Medicare, and Medicaid fee is there to cover your extended family members. It’s not. 
It’s to cover the elderly who paid into the system here their working years. Similarly your taxes to USA are to cover what you use and your children (who don’t pay taxes yet), whilst you pay into the system. 
Otherwise, the system would collapse, as it would in Canada or Europe if suddenly everyone flew in their 65-80 yo sickly elders and put them on Medicaid claiming that’s cool b/c you paid some taxes here after grad school.

And yes, part of the application to sponsor a family member for a green card is to examine your finances and housing situation to prove you can *sponsor* a countryman.  Maybe there are carve outs for elderly parents, but that again points to a burden on the system, not you or them.[/quote]

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