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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think a lot of men are looking to give up a stable life partner, some of their income, many of their friends, and sort of generally being perceived as a good person/father/husband ]in exchange for a drama filled relationship
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Which fantasy world are you living in, though? Nearly 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce, many (most) of them will end dramatically and likely due to a third party. You talk as if married men simply don't want to the inconvenience of a divorce, so it never happens. Clearly, it happens, and often. 
[quote=Anonymous] with someone who essentially functions as a child in their home, [b]no matter how hot she is.[/b] [/quote]
Lie. A man will do anything, end any relationship, for a woman he thinks is the hottest around, if she agrees to be with him. But hey, whatever you have to tell yourself, lady. Also, the nanny "functions as a child in their home"? You hired a child to watch your other children? You sound a bit weird and delusional.[/quote]

I’m not being defensive here.  We are no longer in the program for various reasons, mostly that we moved somewhere that childcare is less expensive, and it wasn’t worth the expense and hassle of hosting an au pair.  I’m just sharing my experience.  
You sound like you have never hosted an au pair.  It’s not like having a professional nanny.  They literally refer to us as their host mom and host dad, ask for money all of the time, take your car, eat your food, and generally need a boatload of help navigating life in a foreign country.  The ones I have hosted also tend to spend a lot of time binge watching reality television, are on their phone too much, gossip a lot with groups of girlfriends, and are gross sometimes.
Teenage girls are hot from afar, but much less so when you live with them.  
[b]I could see a single dad who is lonely falling for an au pair[/b], partly because I could imagine a young woman stepping into a wife kind of role in that circumstance. (although I can’t imagine it actually working out.  How does someone transition from being your employee to your equal partner?  Particularly when they are so dependent on you?)
I can kind of imagine being a young woman who thought the dad was hot.   
[b]I can’t imagine your typical, reasonably happy, married UMC dude wanting to get into a relationship with the au pair.  [/b]
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Except you are missing something here...Your typical married UMC dude in the stage of life with young children, even if "reasonably happy" IS probably lonely, wants adoration, and wants more sex.[/quote]

That’s just the sexless people posting here.  Most married people are having sex, even after kids.

You would also have to be pretty delusional to believe that having an affair with a teenage girl living in your home is going to somehow gain you more sex and admiration.  [/quote]

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