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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this too much to ask of family? I'm not at all worried about friends or anyone else. Mostly DHs family. My family is a non issue (dead/estranged)

1. Yes if course they can hold baby but not for hours on end. They have made comments like we will just hold baby and hand them back over to feed. That doesn't work for me. Will I be exhausted of course. But if so DH would want to bond. Also our lactation consultant has advised after I get a little sleep- a nursing vacation - basically skin to skin in bed and if I'm napping out baby down in the bassinet or DH gets skin to skin.

We would like to breastfeed and as part of my work I know just how incredibly hard it can be. I also know/prepared for bringing to the chest every 2 hours/loads of skin to skin.

2. Masking for the first few weeks/months

3. Flu/RSV/covid test before visiting/ even if that means traveling here and waiting a few days before they see us. They would be flying up from Florida

In laws don't get the flu vac. They only have one covid vax. I know if I pressed it they would get them. But it's not just the vaccines. They are careless and they do not limit exposure or social distance.

4. No kissing baby on the face or hands

5. No social media - we don't use regularly and we aren't posting or sharing either

6. Asking them to stay at a hotel - not sure if that means we would need to pay for the hotel. Open to it

7. Random things like shoes off - which we are always reminding them of, wiping phones w alcohol wipes, washing hands

We live in a large 1 bedroom and when they have visited before they sleep in an air mattress in our living room. But I don't exactly want to worry about clothing/decency when I'm up all day/night trying to get the hang of nursing. Plus it's just a lot of people in a small space during a vulnerable time

A lot of these could be avoided if they just waited to meet baby. But they are digging in their heels to being here again from out of state week 1. They don't want to miss this stage.

I'm not trying to  be unreasonable and we have a decent relationship they just don't understand some of this because it's not what they are used to in their daily lives. [/quote]

I think this is fabulous.  Good list.  You are too kind in allowing people to even visit.    It is a vulnerable time for you and your baby.

I think you are fine.  But I am also the poster who comes from a different culture and we have fantastic mother-child-family friendly cultural practises for post partum.

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