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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS12 is facing lots of meanness at school - he is a skinny, not very strong kid and they call him 'weak', 'slow' ,etc. Not bullying, just kids being kind of nasty. He is a bit overly sensitive about it too. I think he needs to practice comebacks that will better stand up for himself. He says he can never think of a comeback so I think we need to practice these at homes. Any thoughts on how to help him build these skills? Or what specific comebacks might be useful for this situation?
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God no. No no no. That's the worst thing. He would be engaging in a battle of snarly mean wittiness with kids who are probably more socially adept, and would lose and just look foolish. The main solution is to shrug and ignore them and make it as boring as possible for them to taunt him. And yes, it is bullying, so the other solution is to talk to the school and stand up for your child.[/quote]

Nope.

The solution is to out-arm him; you need to find the powerful ammo.  What I'm about to say will sound crazy.

But you need to get the names of the kids.  Look up the social media of the parents.  Look up their case history (super easy in Maryland, btw).  Scroll through all of it.

Maybe their mom is obese.  Go for the jugular.
Maybe their dad had a DUI ten years ago?  I bet the bully doesn't even know that!  That's gold.
Maybe mom had a previous marriage that kid doesn't know about?  Use that to obliterate the bully.

It's not just about playground teasing.  Have the kid go nuclear and it'll stop immediately.  As I previously said, you might get a call from the principal, but your kid will stop getting teased[/quote]

I'll add: I say this all from experience.

Last year, my DS, age 14 at the time, was getting teased a lot in gym class.  He played for one baseball team and a group of boys in the same MS played for a different one.  And it was non-stop.  Not just about baseball, about everything.  There were tears at home, and my partner kept advising to just ignore and walk away.  It just ATE him up inside.

I couldn't stand it anymore.  So my partner finally listened to my advice to let him stand up for himself.  We discovered that one of the kid's dad (and a coach on the team!) had been sentenced to 4 years in prison in the early 2000s for grand larceny.  The kid didn't know that about his dad.

And guess what?  We get that info in the chamber, until the perfect moment.  Right when the kid tried to push my DS out of his seat in the lunchroom, he busted out the comments about theft running in the family and 'better be careful, or you'll end at Rikers like your Dad.  Oh, you guys didnt know that Billy's dad was in prison?  You should ask him at your next practce."

Definitely risky.  And the boys still hate each other.  But the comments have stopped.  [/quote]

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