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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I appreciate what you're trying to do here, but you need to figure out how to add some flexibility and collaboration into your arrangement.  What you are doing is not going to work as your kid gets older and has more activities and/or if you have more kids or life circumstances in general.  (I'm not saying you weren't in the right in this particular situation - but this "protected time" thing with no flexibility is likely not sustainable given all of the future variables coming at you.)[/quote]

This has nothing to do with OP’s current situation. [b]They can deal with those things as they come AND maintain protected time[/b]. [/quote]

Sure, sure they can. And they'll resent each other even more than they do over this one petty little incident. They're keeping score already. Just wait until the scores include who does the most drives to activities or who has to volunteer at a school event "because it's YOUR turn and don't care if you're running late getting home from work!" [/quote]

In my experience the only people who advise against scorekeeping are 1) people who take advantage and 2) people who enable them. It’s actually fine to do some measure of “scorekeeping” in the form of making sure things are equitable.

The faster path to resentment is to refuse to be clear eyed about the equitable division of labor. [/quote]

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