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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I still don't know enough about your situation to say much, but just sharing an observation that sometimes the best way to let go is to stop trying to stop thinking about it.  Stop focusing on it completely, including all the attempts to move past it.  Therapy, to the extent that it just gives you an outlet to keep rehashing and re-igniting that anger, is counter productive.  Stop meditating with the intent to move past this.  You are forcing yourself in to a position you are not ready for on this issue (to move on) and it is actually preventing you from moving on.  It's like you are dealing with a grease fire and you keep trying to pour water on it to put it out but that is just making things worse.  Just let it turn itself out.  Acknowledge your feelings when they arise but then move on to whatever you were doing.  In addition to that, you could try:

- writing a letter from yourself at your old age death bed to current self.  Don't focus solely on this traumatic event but just write what you think your older self would say to yourself now in general

- focus on someone else.  Not something else, but someone else.  Go help someone who needs help, volunteer for an organization that provides a way you can directly help someone one on one.  Read biographies or autobiographies about people who have endured great suffering.  The idea here is to put your sorrows into perspective.  Whatever your sufferings may have been, I guarantee you someone has suffered more.  Do whatever you can to draw your focus out of yourself and put your life in perspective.

- at the end of each day before bed, think deeply about 3 things from that day you were thankful for.  The idea here is to slowly develop a "gratitude" mindset.

Good luck[/quote]

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