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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, at bedtime the other night my 8 year old poked me in the stomach a la the Pilsbury dough boy and said "fat!" oh so casually. Like, I think he was literally just making an observation/being a little silly.

In his defense, 8 year olds can be very literal, and he's not incorrect. I am definitely thicker around the midsection these days. Since he didn't seem like he was trying to be intentionally cruel or mean, I didn't make a huge deal about it. I just rolled my eyes and told him it wasn't a very nice thing to say and he should be careful because he could hurt someone's feelings.

So, one untoward comment from an 8 y/o doesn't mean you're doing something wrong and raising a budding sociopath. Just use it as a learning opportunity.[/quote]

Good lord no.

What you say is "Yes, I have fat on my stomach.  People have bodies with all different types of sizes and with different amounts of fat.  All bodies are good bodies."

Telling him it was "not nice" is not helpful.  Now he knows "fat" is a loaded word you are sensitive about.  Same with a kid telling me I'm not pretty.  WHO CARES.  I don't exist to look pretty for other people.  That's a much more important lesson for an 8 year old to learn than "that's not nice to say".  
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Sorry, but you are completely wrong on this. Do you never want to be a grandmother?  :lol: 
It's fine for you to let him know that you are fine with him telling you that you are not pretty or are fat but you should certainly clue him in on the fact that these are not nice things to say because they do hurt people's feelings.  You ask WHO CARES? Most people care, that's who. Unless he's gonna stay home with you his whole life, please raise him to be a nicer person than that. You can have an opinion, but you should not go around telling people they are fat or ugly. [/quote]

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