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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^question still stands though - OP, have you talked to him about your financial concerns etc… and if not, what’s holding you back?[/quote]

Op here.  Yes, I have talked to him.  He tells me I’m comfortable and he pays all the bills.  He won’t tell me what will happen if something happens to him however.  [/quote]

Ok so he responds with silence when you express concern about if something were to happen to him. So do you want security, do you want to be married, do you want to come up with a plan together? If you do and he isn’t on the same page then your options are to remain in this pseudo limbo or to do something about it. I get that you are hurt by his not hiring you but I don’t think that’s the root issue here. T[b]HIS is the root issue and it is getting projected onto this job situation because it triggers in you this knowing or suspicion that you are not secure in this relationship.[/b]

I am speculating here on some points but if it’s on point then I have to ask, what are you thinking and why have you gotten yourself into this situation? Did you think he would eventually propose?[/quote]

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The job has nothing to do with this. 
The issue is that OP feels insecure in this relationship, because she knows she's at her partner's mercy. 
The question is what she's going to do about it. 
I think this would be a good time to outsource childcare and re-train/actively look for a job. [/quote]

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