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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]TL;DR - In many places in America, it’s more common for a 43 yr old to have a 3yr old grand child than her own child. Strangers like to run their mouth for no reason.

I’m not sure where you live, but in Arlington / Falls church City, I went to a lot of 40th BD parties for other moms at our preschool. I’m from rural Ohio and my HS friends were all posting prom pics of their kids when I was potty training. If someone in Ohio thought I was my child’s grandmother it would not be because I look older than 45, it would be because 45yr olds there commonly have 3-7 yr old grandchildren.

My first child and I don’t look that different- we’re both pretty generic white people. He has blue eyes and blonde hair that is now light brown. My husband and I both have green/brown eyes and dark brown hair - but we’re blonde as children. When  my oldest was a baby, I would be stopped all the time by strangers and they would ask things like “where does he get those blue eyes?” It didn’t occur to me until my 2nd child that people were trying to figure out my relationship to my child - mom, grandmother, nanny, etc. My 2nd child looks so much like me that strangers would remark on that - “oh he’s definitely yours!”. [/quote]

I'm from Ohio, and I don't know very many people my age (46) that are grandparents, but agree that most of my high school friends have children that are in high school and college now, so it's not a stretch. That said, it sounds like it was an older gentleman that thought OP was grandma and for his generation, a 45 year old would much more likely be the grandparent of a 3 year old than the parent. It's a generational thing probably more than a regional thing in this particular case.[/quote]

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