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[quote=Anonymous]Two introverts with three kids here. You accept that you have to change a bit for your kids.

You love them, ostensibly, so you work on yourself.

It is popular these days for people to prioritize themselves. And to an extent this is great, far too many people allow themselves to be used by others and sacrifice their own wants and needs the sacrificial altar of keeping the peace/making others happy.

But the pendulum has swung too far. No one should compromise themselves, but at the same time, we all need to remember that humans are social creatures and if we want to have relationships with others, those are two way streets. Being asked to do something out of our comfort zone or to endure a hardship isn't necessarily a harm. It isn't necessarily something to be avoided.

Parts of having kids have been very difficult for me, and for my husband, but we love them and the family we have created. We know that this time when they are young is temporary, we know the value in creating and maintaining bonds even if it isn't necessarily comfortable.

So you have kids, and you put their welfare before your own, which is what good parents do across the board (and every good parent sacrifices some of their needs and wants when they have kids IMO, which isn't the same thing as sacrificing ALL your needs and wants).
 
If you don't think you can do this, don't have kids. One of our kids is a major extrovert. I love her so much, I meet her halfway, and I explain to her why I don't have as much social energy as she does. And she's growing up to be an extrovert that knows how to love and accept an introvert's quirks, without accepting their rudeness. [/quote]

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