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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Remember, a child with ADHD is delayed about 3 years in maturity level.  She will learn to do everything on her own - but it will be later.  [/quote]

100%.  I "dressed" my ADHD daughter while we chatted and took her through the same routine every morning until 4th grade.  She began to take over most of the steps and is now completely independent though still might need a gentle reminder to brush her teeth or remember her computer charger.

She is now, an 8th grader,  a straight A student, super creative and an overall good kid with a healthy self esteem.  And we have a close relationship.

Parents - your young ADHD kids are not trying to torture you or make you late on purpose.  Have a little compassion and ignore the type A super moms who have it all wired.  You have a different kid - be patient and loving and do what works until your kid is mature enough to take on these habits.

As a side note, my oldest son is also ADHD and we shamed him (unintentionally) and nagged him, and guess what - it didn't click for him until 8th grade either.  And he still has self esteem issues around organization.  (And was an angry teenager) I wish we had been more patient with him.[/quote]

Thank you. My doctor said not to dress her and that we were enabling her. Honestly I just want to cry. My other kid is SN (entirely other issues) and I just am at the end of my rope with the two of them. [/quote]

If you're at the end of your rope, forget that doctor. I'm the pp from the first page w/the 6yo boy. His ADHD is clinically severe. He sounds very similar to your daughter actually. We are in a tricky situation in that he will only take a liquid form of ADHD medication so it's not possible to give a "booster" at school so to speak. This means that during the school week we wait until the last possible minute to give him his ADHD medication so that he can get through a school day without issue. It also means that during the week his time with us in the morning and evening is unmedicated. It is HARD. Do what you have to for things to be easier on you during the week-[b]even if that means dressing her.[/b] [/quote]

This.

OP, you need to give yourself a gift. Save a bit of your sanity and dress her when you have to get out of the house at a certain time. She's six, not sixteen. This is the least of your worries. [/quote]

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