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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you don’t want to be with SIL why are you pretending it’s about the rooms?[/quote]

We would stay with them if the rooms were suitable. The difficulty is that explaining we don’t want our nephew unsupervised with our kids would kick off a huge and unnecessary family drama— we don’t care if he’s medicated/in therapy/doing sports, we aren’t risking our kids safety and it’s not up for discussion. 
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So then why do you want them to ask for your input on the house if you never intend to stay there?  [/quote]

Because if it’s something that really matters to them we could do it for a couple of days with the right accommodations. [/quote]

So then the cousins violent behavior isnt really an issue if you would "stay anyway". You are confusing. [/quote]

+100. Exactly this. Pick a lane, OP.[/quote]

Agree[/quote]

I can’t tell if the “confused” posts are in good faith, but just in case:

We would spend 1-2 days at the beach house staying with the in-laws if our accommodations were such that we could lock a door at night between our kids and oldest cousin— so no wandering out to the bathroom at 2 a.m.  The rest of the time we watch the kids like hawks and the only time we don’t is when we’re asleep. [/quote]

OP makes the nephew sound like a psycho path with a hairpin trigger so if she feels comfortable with a flimsy rental door lock to keep her kids safe while she is asleep, have at it and good luck. [/quote]

I’m OP. I don’t think I made him sound like a psychopath— he has significantly injured two of his siblings, both times things which an adult present could have prevented. [/quote]

I have to wonder what kind of parent YOU are, because you can prevent injury to your family by...not staying with this kid.[/quote]

We have to be hyper vigilant either way or not even visit the beach house. If it’s genuinely important to my in laws that we stay with them, we can for a short time if we can lock the doors. If they’re just being polite I won’t waste the effort.

My husband is just as good at supervising as I am, and tends to prefer to be the one with the kid with our nephew as our nephew is getting bigger— I have no concerns about him. He will also put an end to these trips the first time our nephew even attempts to lay a finger on our kids so I’m not worried about his boundaries. [/quote]

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