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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t care about the SUV’s specifically but yes these types of people are why I don’t really have good friends. I can’t relate to them at all - we are friendly acquaintances and that’s it.

I feel the same about the ski trips out west, home remodels, country clubs, private schools, etc. It’s just never ending for many of these families and I feel like an alien visiting a foreign land I don’t understand. And I’ve been here 15 years.[/quote]'

NP. Not going to read page after page of this. Re: the post above (figuring that's you, OP? Well, this applies to anyone who wrote that):

Why let them take up THIS much of your mental real estate after 15 years? I'm asking that seriously and without snark, to be clear. You've lived where you live for a long time. Unless your kids are also in private school with their kids, where do you encounter these women? How much do you interact with them? Why are they looming large enough in your mind that you're posting about them on a random Tuesday? Think about that bigger picture, PP. Where are you going that you see and hear them talk about ski trips, home remodells, country clubs etc.? I dont' get how it is you have that level of interaction if you're not friends, unless you share....what exactly? Kids at the same school, or in the same activity, or they're at your gym and you overhear them, maybe?

Find places to be and engaging things to do which matter to you, and stop giving them even an inch of your mental real estate. Think of it that way: You have only so much space in your head; don't cede an inch of it to anyone who isn't an actual friend and don't waste your time pondering why people you dislike, or don't "get," are the way they are. Get proactive and fill that headspace with other things.

If you still feel like "an alien visiting a foreign land" after that, in all seriousness, consider if there's more going on with you. That feeling is about you as much as, if not more than, it is about where you live. And again, not sure why these people are on your radar this much, after so long. [/quote]

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