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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG I know- we could all just label each other as a form of judgement and shame!

OK- I’ll start, here goes!

Queen bees
Wanna bees
Pick mes
Cool girl
Nature girl
Sporty spice
Scary spice
Baby spice

We will just wear signs so guys can pick what they want. 
Soooooooo very pro social and mature!
You should definitely include the list on facebook and have to check which “spice” you are![/quote]

I guess I'm "nature girl" but that label doesn't bother me because I like nature. You can label me that if you want! It's appropriate.

You're just mad because someone has assigned one of the less flattering labels to you and it struck a bit too close to home. I can read this thread and think about "pick me" behavior and recognize that I've definitely been guilty of it in the past. It's embarrassing to admit, but I think it's valuable to do it and I'm glad I understand the dynamic now so that I can avoid it in the future, and also educate my daughter about it.

Pick me behavior is toxic, woman-agains-woman behavior. So, for that matter, is queen bee behavior. You are getting hung up on the idea that it's wrong to label people and fine, agree that calling someone a "pick me" like it's not something she can change is probably not useful. But are you really saying you don't understand this is a set of behaviors that are harmful and pit women against each other in a way that puts men in control, because it's a behavior that puts men in the position of choosing? Do you really not get this? Your objections are getting ridiculous at this point.[/quote]

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