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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I get that she isn’t and never intended on being his caregiver, isn’t capable of being his caregiver and should not be expected to be his caregiver in the future. Geez. But  clearly he’s assumed that this was the nature of their relationship. When asked by the visiting nurse, do you live alone, he answered well when I finish healing, I have a partner that I live with…. [/quote]

NP here. Look, lots of people of all ages hear what they want to hear, will deny to themselves reality about all kinds of situations, Your FIL is no different So many elderly people are in complete and utter denial about what is plain and simple right in front of them. Any rational and reasonable person understands that she has moved out, that she is not living with him and she is not his caregiver. I know you seem frustrated with your FIL's refusal to grasp reality, but there you are. It is not his partner's fault, it's not your fault, it's not your DH's fault. It is FIL's fault.

You can't force him to accept it. Who cares how he replies to the nurse during recovery. The situation is what it is and that's the end of it. Stop twisting yourself into knots over the girlfriend. She's not part of the equation. Let it go.[/quote]

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