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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d advise your son to wait for another 2 years post gf’s graduation. The huge debt can be an impediment in their ability to become financially stable. Are the 2 in the same page regarding budgeting and expenses? Finances can cause friction in relationships especially if there’s inequality in the debt burden coming in as a married couple. Is your son really okay with that huge debt? [/quote]

+1. No harm in waiting a few years. [/quote]

There is harm to the woman whose time you’re wasting. Infertility causes tension in marriage and costs as much as the young woman’s debt to address (if you’re lucky!). OPs son should break up with her so she can find an independent adult to start a family with. [/quote]

She’s 24 so we’re talking 26. How many DCUMers had children before 26?[/quote]

Her loans won’t be substantially altered by the time she’s 26. All she will have done is wasted two years in which she could have met someone who is marriage material.

If OP had financial expectations for her son, she needed to communicate those when he started dating, not when he was talking about marriage. All that this has accomplished— if the young couple stays together— is ensuring OP is a despised in law. [/quote]

OP is male. Funny how you assumed OP was a mom. [/quote]

It’s irrelevant— if dad has financial expectations for his son, he needed to communicate those who his son started dating, not when he was talking marriage. Presumably this woman has wanted to be a teacher the entire time they’ve been together it’s not like this will have come as a blistering shock. [/quote]

Son came to him for advice. He's supposed to know when his son is thinking of proposing?  My ILs didn't know until DH told them he proposed. [/quote]

Dad has never met his sons girlfriend who he’s ready to propose to now? Dad never asked her major? Not a chance. [/quote]

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