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[quote=Anonymous]I think bringing cash is key. If you are ordering conservatively and everyone else is splurging then that will be somewhat evident. In fact if I saw this I would preemptively start to feel concerned about you taking on an even split of the bill.

By having cash to throw in you can eliminate the drama. When the bill comes throw in your $125 and say, "this is for my meal plus some of yours Aunt Bertha! What a wonderful night this has been!"

By throwing a hundred out there you will not look cheap as I assume this will be likely be more than you order! Then, if the rest of the family is in a different financial position then they can split evenly but by throwing in cash you have removed yourself from the negotiations. I don't think you need to leave early but you could excuse yourself to the restroom after saying that and take a bit longer than usual to let all the rest be sorted out before you return.

I tend to over order and try to ensure I'm paying more as I do not like to be subsidized at all. I have great empathy for people in your position but can't stand the nickle and dimers. So the goal is just to establish your boundaries without seeming like you have been monitoring what went into everyone's mouths all night, that is what causes bad feelings. Throwing in an amount generously more than what you incurred (due to contributing to the VIP) resolves that.  [/quote]

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