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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First of all OP, this is extremely rude. There are so many students who have worked so hard and every bit as capable as your child (boy or girl? Who knows?) who do not have these acceptances. Second of all, what kind of high school are we talking about? GPAs vary so much and the top ranked college programs know that a 4.0 at one school—especially one that calls more than the top 1% the top 1%, that makes no sense—is very different than a more rigorous school. Your kid has great choices. Stop making him or her feel bad.[/quote]

Why are you and some of the rest such as--holes. OP is allowed to be disappointed. OP is allowed to vent. These kids kill themselves for 4 years in the hopes that they'll get into dream schools. Your kids do it too. All kids do it. When that doesn't happen, some roll with it. Some are upset. And there is nothing bad about that. (And yes, parent feelings are valid. We are the ones watching them kill themselves).

If you don't have something constructive to say. If you can't empathize nicely. Then just shut the EF up. I'm sick of the piling on, nasty, judgmental responses to valid feelings on here. [/quote]

Sorry but I disagree. If your kid goes into the process with one dream school, you are asking for trouble. Not saying that parents can control that, but OP sounds like he himself does not have things in perspective. We are supposed to be the role models, helping them navigate their first big decision.

My kid realized every school has strengths and weaknesses, so she chose her favorite among the choices before her. That is what this can look like.

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The kid wants a CS degree---he can literally get that anywhere and do extremely well in life.  Our job as parents should be to set the expectations for the college process---that it's a crap shoot for anything in the T40-50.  That you need to cast a wide net and have true safeties that you show extreme demonstrated interest, so they don't yield protect you.  Realize that you might only get into 2-3 schools out of 10 if they all have acceptance rates below 20-25%.  So help them pick ones that have better acceptance rates, that are NOT direct admit to the elite majors---there are excellent STEM/CS/Eng schools that are not direct admit with acceptance rates over 30-40%.  Having the right list of colleges to apply to helps, and that's our job as parents to help them create.  If you do that, you will have some great choices come April.  [/quote]

Yes.

And in the end you can only go to ONE school, bruised ego aside on some of the deferrals and rejections.[/quote]

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