Reply to Custody Schedule - School year vs. Summer

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Custody Schedule - School year vs. Summer"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]One thing I would never want is for a judge to decide a custody schedule. That judge doesn’t love your child. That judge doesn’t have any predisposition to believe you over your ex husband. That judge most likely will hate your case - never knew one that didn’t hate custody cases.

You get one shot at presenting your case. You get a small bit of attention to the facts and that attention is not uninterrupted. If your lawyer has a bad day or the judge takes a disliking to you, you live with the consequences.

Plus your facts aren’t so great. Your child is six. He’s not throwing desks across the room after a visit. Lots of six year olds have issues in school because they haven’t yet learned and adapted to school behavior and they are still reeling from losing a few years of normalcy in preschool. Lots of things besides dad to blame any issues on. And if you’re really that concerned you would have sought assistance through the school through special education services due to his emotional dysregulation rather than the courts for more custody.

OTOH, you aren’t going to look reasonable. Reasonable will be presenting lots of alternate 50/50 custody options that were declined. And reasonable is not suggesting that tearing an elementary school kid away from the parent they exclusively lived with for nine and a half months thinking it won’t be traumatic for the child.

If school is really the big issue, give dad every Friday through Monday morning and make up the rest of the 50/50 with school break and summer. Most little kids have some transition difficulty on Mondays anyway and it’s just one day of potential school issues. And schools provide supports for this sort of thing. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics