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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pretty early on...it's not the worst thing that was done to me, but it was the moment I knew. I was 4 or 5.

My mom used to take me to the grocery store most days, and kids would get to pick a cookie from the dessert case without charge. My mom would take me to the bakery and the woman working would ask me what I wanted, and then get it from the case and hand it to me in wax paper to eat in the store.

And as soon as we left the store, my mom would yell at me about how I always had to pick the cookie that was hardest to reach for that poor bakery lady. How I wasted her time by taking too long to decide. How I told which one I wanted and then inconvenienced her by changing my mind.

I always wondered why she cared more about that bakery woman than me..... [/quote]

I am sorry, unfortunately I recognize myself in your mom. My kid DID take a while to decide, then would change his mind, etc. I wasn’t yelling but I did reproach him for this. Honestly, for the free thing you make your pick quickly and stick to it. Sorry it’s probably not what you wanted to hear. [/quote]

hmm this is something that I am working on- [b]you took something that was supposed to be a treat for your kid and pissed all over it and made it a bad memory. it doesn't matte that your kid takes forever etc.. you let them have that fun experience b/c honestly your child having a good experience IS more important than the service person having to deal with their pickiness. [/b]The next time that you are going to be in the same situation- you tell your kid- hey, take your time and choose something once so that you dont inconvenience the service worker which you shouldn't do wether the item is free or paid for regardless.  let people around you have a good time at the moment and choose a neutral time to teach your kids good manners. Your children will remember you as hyper critical and dementor like and they maybe even think that you re prioritizing the worker over them and that is the worst feeling for a child.[/quote]

Agree. The person is also in a service position and should be able to demonstrate some patience with a child. And don't get on me for this: I waited tables, worked in a grocery store, cleaned hotel rooms . . . having grown up poor I know what it's like and what is reasonable to expect. [/quote]

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