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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some years I need a break from the pressures and traditions of Christmas with my in-laws. The driving force for my mil is her memory of Christmas from when she was a child, but she now wants her non-Christian daughter-in-laws (not her own sons) to continue her childhood dream. My husband has no desire to take up the responsibility so we alternate years and do our own thing, which is relaxing and allows us to have memories of our own, in our home. For the people who say you’re not even Christian so what’s the big deal in just showing up for Christmas- it is exhausting to have to fit into someone else’s Christmas childhood fantasy-tradition.[/quote]

I get it, OP.

I am a Christian, a non-practicing Catholic. I was baptised, did my Holy Communion, DH and I had a church wedding, but I am not a believer.
DH and I are not churchgoers.

While I enjoy the traditions of Christmas (and have done since I was a child) , just like you I sometimes want a break from celebrating Christmas with the inlaws.

The reason is that, while the occasion itself is pleasant enough (good food, Christmas music etc.), my SILs and their spouses mainly ignore me, like they have done for the 25 years that DH and I have been married.
My attempts to join in with their conversations, or to talk about a new topic are largely ignored. They are cordial, but nothing more.

I don't know but their behaviour towards me may be related to the fact that they are all devout practicing Catholics and I/we are not. MIL is super 
religious but she is a nice MIL. It's the SIL's who often make me feel like I'm on the periphery of DH's family. Not very Christian if you ask me.

Christmas at home, just the two of us, is fine by me.

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