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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am definitely not saying that everyone has to do it my way. I'm just saying that you never hear people say "just make your kids separate foods, its fine" and I have found it is fine.

But I've been told a million times, by pediatricians, teachers, friends, family, "Just feed them what you eat!" As though all kids just eat what adults eat no issue. But my kids have never done this, and when we've tried to do family dinners without substitutions, or even minimizing substitutions, it just leads to conflict. So I just decided that what matters is that they eat regularly healthy meals that hit all their nutritional needs, and it's not actually that important that they eat the exact same foods.

Obviously if your kid happily eats whatever you eat, this isn't an issue. But serving different food is way better than either arguing over eating the family meal or watching them eat the least nutritious version of that meal when there are plenty of nutritious foods they WILL eat.

People act like serving your kids "kid food" at a meal is a failure and it's really not. I personally think it would be a failure if my my kid was eating nothing but tortillas/rolls/bread/rice and milk for dinner every night, which is what would happen if I didn't offer an alternative to our adult foods.[/quote]

You’re conflict averse and will continue to let your kids dictate what you do as a parent. Honestly, this is what it sounds like. There is no conflict IME from kids when they are babies and whatever there is at 1 or 2 is much easier to deal with than when they are 4 or 5. It’s fine that you decided this isn’t your hill to die on. I just really doubt that it is possible to maintain any rules as a parent without holding your boundaries in a way that makes kids feel frustration, sadness, anger, etc. Even the most reasonable and gently explained boundary can do that. [/quote]

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