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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, why don't you two have close family.  Are your parents alive?[/quote]

They do not have local family. Very common in this area. Not all families are close. I do not know why people are acting like this is unusual for two working parents not from this area. It is not that unusual. This area is a grind.[/quote]

I sort of agree with you, but the fact that his coworkers exclude him from lunches and other functions tells me there’s something socially awkward about him. I know that may sound mean, but  most people are able to make some sort of work friendship after being there for many years. Even if it is just to go with a group to lunch.  [/quote]

Maybe he does not want to. I don't socialize with people at work. I am a woman. It is less likely for a man to do that. My ex husband would NEVER socialize with coworkers. He is not interested. I understand that completely. [/quote]

Huh??This entire thread is about the woman and her husband, who want to socialize! He wouldn’t give a damn if he was excluded if he didn’t care. [/quote]

I married into a family on the spectrum. 
They aren’t social and they don’t have friends; they are homebodies- don’t care to eat out, never vacation to new places or anywhere, never had their kids do sports or activities, don’t have many interests.  It doesn’t bother them.  
They’ve had no friends for 40 years now so think that’s normal. That’s their normal. 
They even make fun of people who do go to soccer or follow sports or try new beach islands or decorate their house for the holidays. That’s wayyyyyy too much work and effort for them to handle.

Similar to Op they somewhat know the socially acceptable response when asked things. Like they know they should decorate for Xmas. They know they should have some friends. But they make excuses and blame others. They do saw awkward things which may or may not turn others off.  They’re family now so then asking why I take my kids ti soccer (5 mins away), or decorate the outside of my house when my Chinese neighbor doesn’t, or how do I really know this is Condé Naste Top 10 beach if I haven’t been to the other 9, etc.  They like to fixate on a Word or definition, and argue it; then everything unravels socially. 
Do people want to hang out with others and have constant misunderstandings? Not so much. [/quote]

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